and then ask yourself, why is everything going wrong?Why do you take bad advice instead of taking good advice?
Well played, sirWhy do you take bad advice instead of taking good advice?
Bad advice usually sounds like more fun. Good advice is usually boring, In my case, it's because I suffer from mental illnesses that make me choose bad decisions. I can be pretty forgiving but I never learned to joke around socially in a guy way. I can respect an honest conflict, but it's just unmanly to get a gang involved. I think of many times I have let things go, only to have them restarted by someone making an arrogent comment. I am working on being forgiving, but don't be foolish. You can learn to have grace, if you really try. I beleive in you more than you do.
Haha, I don't take advice from anyone.
FYI good and bad is a matter of opinion, therefore you may see something as bad, and I may see it as good.
But then again... I do always tend to end up the one in trouble.
Anyways, back to my history homework. Geez people, quit distracting me!
it;s the human condition..... we take the advice that we WANT to take, that fits in with our preconceived idea of what we should do..... we ask for the advice though to have someone else to blame and alleviate the guilt we have...... SUCKS, huh?
Because good advice is usually what I Should do. Bad advice is usually what I Want to do.
i dont do that, but sometimes being depressed and taking the easy way out..is well...easier. then after we learn from out mistake...we realize the advice was right. its human nature i think
Because the bad advice is usually more fun
Fry, I ask no quarter, no give any
I did? Honestly, I thought the advice was sound. I had no idea the advice I got from Charles Manson was so bad!
Human Nature
maybe because bad advice is usually easier to follow than good advice
I don't. If I need advice I either ask a professional, or post it here at yahoo answers.
Me?!
You don't even know me! How can you say that!
Gotta live on the edge ya know :P
i do.......?
not sure
not sure
stfu themoop i know u u were the one that suked my dik last night
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Why do some parents give bad advice to daughters that are pregnant?
As mothers we should know some of the better things to tell our daughters when they are pregnant. Why tell one to eat fatty foods in last month of prenancy when the mother knows that the fatty foods arent healthy for anyone?Why do some parents give bad advice to daughters that are pregnant?
Parents are far from being the only ones to give bad advice to pregnant women! At least parents are usually truly concerned and want the best for their daughters and grandchildren. In these cases the problem is generally a very real lack of knowledge, and simply passing on the same bad information that they were given during their pregnancies.
Pregnant women get bad advice from parents, friends, complete strangers, books, and (yes) their doctors.
Examples:1. Don't eat salt
2. Don't gain so much weight
3. It doesn't matter what you eat as long as you
are gaining weight
4. Small babies are easier to give birth to
5. It's safer to have your baby in a hospital
6. Vaginal birth is dangerous for babies
7. Cesareans are risk free
8. Cesareans prevent urinary incontinence
9. Drugs given during labor are harmless
10. Formula is better than breast milk
11. Babies need ';solid'; foods prior to age 6 months
12. It doesn't matter what you eat during pregnancy
as long as you take your vitamins
Knowledge of the science, the emotions, and the psychology pertaining to human pregnancy, prenatal nutrition, childbirth, newborns, etc. is constantly growing, evolving, and expanding. If a person's knowledge base is old, out-of-date, based on fears and/or ';old wives tales';, then chances are the information being passed on MIGHT be A) worthless, or B) dangerous. Knowing that will NEVER stop people from passing on advice though, so it is up to women to study and learn TRUTH vs. non-truths. Never believe anything blindly!Why do some parents give bad advice to daughters that are pregnant?
Well actually, the mother may really believe that eating such foods could help during labor. She was likely told the same thing by her mother and then had an easy labor which she attributed to the foods she had eaten. So I think what we need to do is educate the women who are having children right now, and let them know that technology and medecine have changed so much in the last century that what was normal during their mother's and grandmother's pregnancies isn't what's considered normal or healthy any more. Old Wives Tales exist by word of mouth, passed on because people think there is truth in them. We need to counter them by encouraging women to discover the truth. One way is for women to ask their drs these questions, but these days its hard to get more than 15 minutes at an apppointment, so another way is to encourage this kind of discussion on message boards such as the Webmd pregnancy boards and even Yahoo Answers. I love the Webmd pregnancy boards because besides being moderated by individuals who won't hesitate to point out inaccuracies and untruths and provide the research to debunk myths, there's also a great sense of camraderie among the pregnant women which is great for support and understanding. So we should all just try to educate ourselves as much as possible, and steer others towards places where they can get the information they need.
You have to remember that we are talking about a whole other generation. Maybe the advice theses parents were given was good advice back then. Times change %26amp; it is better to get advice from a midwife, nurse or doctor. But do be polite with parents when they give advice. There is no point in hurting their feelings.
1) Most advice is likely to be bad, just as most art and books and music are likely to be bad. Good stuff in any category is hard to find; you have to dig through a mile of rock to find diamonds.
2) Most bad advice is just stuff that gets passed on from someone else who also didn't know what the **** they were talking about.
3) Being a mother doesn't make you an expert in anything, not even pregnancy. It doesn't even make you any smarter than you were before you got pregnant.
Most often they are telling them either facts as they were understood 20 years earlier or cultural expectations from their own culture.
In some ways pregnancy can be a scary time. You don't know anything concrete about the baby until she/he is born! (Even prenatal tests aren't always accurate, and they are less than a generation old!!)
So, different cultures came up with various superstitions to reassure the mother-to-be that everything is okay or actions she can take to help her unborn baby. Things like ';you should eat ____'; ';you shouldn't eat ____'; ';you should wear loose clothes'; ';you shouldn't tell anyone you're pregnant because it attracts the evil eye';. Wouldn't you be happy if you *knew* all you had to do was one simple thing, and you'd have a happy, healthy baby and an easy labor?!
Just like everyone in life mothers dont always give the best advice. Or maybe they still believe in the old wives tails they were told. Who knows but mother does not always know best.
Parents are far from being the only ones to give bad advice to pregnant women! At least parents are usually truly concerned and want the best for their daughters and grandchildren. In these cases the problem is generally a very real lack of knowledge, and simply passing on the same bad information that they were given during their pregnancies.
Pregnant women get bad advice from parents, friends, complete strangers, books, and (yes) their doctors.
Examples:1. Don't eat salt
2. Don't gain so much weight
3. It doesn't matter what you eat as long as you
are gaining weight
4. Small babies are easier to give birth to
5. It's safer to have your baby in a hospital
6. Vaginal birth is dangerous for babies
7. Cesareans are risk free
8. Cesareans prevent urinary incontinence
9. Drugs given during labor are harmless
10. Formula is better than breast milk
11. Babies need ';solid'; foods prior to age 6 months
12. It doesn't matter what you eat during pregnancy
as long as you take your vitamins
Knowledge of the science, the emotions, and the psychology pertaining to human pregnancy, prenatal nutrition, childbirth, newborns, etc. is constantly growing, evolving, and expanding. If a person's knowledge base is old, out-of-date, based on fears and/or ';old wives tales';, then chances are the information being passed on MIGHT be A) worthless, or B) dangerous. Knowing that will NEVER stop people from passing on advice though, so it is up to women to study and learn TRUTH vs. non-truths. Never believe anything blindly!Why do some parents give bad advice to daughters that are pregnant?
Well actually, the mother may really believe that eating such foods could help during labor. She was likely told the same thing by her mother and then had an easy labor which she attributed to the foods she had eaten. So I think what we need to do is educate the women who are having children right now, and let them know that technology and medecine have changed so much in the last century that what was normal during their mother's and grandmother's pregnancies isn't what's considered normal or healthy any more. Old Wives Tales exist by word of mouth, passed on because people think there is truth in them. We need to counter them by encouraging women to discover the truth. One way is for women to ask their drs these questions, but these days its hard to get more than 15 minutes at an apppointment, so another way is to encourage this kind of discussion on message boards such as the Webmd pregnancy boards and even Yahoo Answers. I love the Webmd pregnancy boards because besides being moderated by individuals who won't hesitate to point out inaccuracies and untruths and provide the research to debunk myths, there's also a great sense of camraderie among the pregnant women which is great for support and understanding. So we should all just try to educate ourselves as much as possible, and steer others towards places where they can get the information they need.
You have to remember that we are talking about a whole other generation. Maybe the advice theses parents were given was good advice back then. Times change %26amp; it is better to get advice from a midwife, nurse or doctor. But do be polite with parents when they give advice. There is no point in hurting their feelings.
1) Most advice is likely to be bad, just as most art and books and music are likely to be bad. Good stuff in any category is hard to find; you have to dig through a mile of rock to find diamonds.
2) Most bad advice is just stuff that gets passed on from someone else who also didn't know what the **** they were talking about.
3) Being a mother doesn't make you an expert in anything, not even pregnancy. It doesn't even make you any smarter than you were before you got pregnant.
Most often they are telling them either facts as they were understood 20 years earlier or cultural expectations from their own culture.
In some ways pregnancy can be a scary time. You don't know anything concrete about the baby until she/he is born! (Even prenatal tests aren't always accurate, and they are less than a generation old!!)
So, different cultures came up with various superstitions to reassure the mother-to-be that everything is okay or actions she can take to help her unborn baby. Things like ';you should eat ____'; ';you shouldn't eat ____'; ';you should wear loose clothes'; ';you shouldn't tell anyone you're pregnant because it attracts the evil eye';. Wouldn't you be happy if you *knew* all you had to do was one simple thing, and you'd have a happy, healthy baby and an easy labor?!
Just like everyone in life mothers dont always give the best advice. Or maybe they still believe in the old wives tails they were told. Who knows but mother does not always know best.
Does this section offer more bad advice than good? What's the worst dieting advice you've seen here?
I've seen a lot of bad advice given in this section, from telling people they can't eat yogurt and lose weight all the way up to telling the best way to ';become'; anorexic and/or bulemic.
What's the worst advice you've seen?
Do you think this section does more good or more harm?Does this section offer more bad advice than good? What's the worst dieting advice you've seen here?
The most annoying stories are all the ones from 13 year-old-girls who are 80 pounds and want to lose 20 pounds. They then get about 10 answers to their post saying they need to eat more. Even worse are people who respond to these posts and actually give advice for these anorexic girls on how to lose more weight.Does this section offer more bad advice than good? What's the worst dieting advice you've seen here?
The constant sells ads are the worst I think. ;)
What's the worst advice you've seen?
Do you think this section does more good or more harm?Does this section offer more bad advice than good? What's the worst dieting advice you've seen here?
The most annoying stories are all the ones from 13 year-old-girls who are 80 pounds and want to lose 20 pounds. They then get about 10 answers to their post saying they need to eat more. Even worse are people who respond to these posts and actually give advice for these anorexic girls on how to lose more weight.Does this section offer more bad advice than good? What's the worst dieting advice you've seen here?
The constant sells ads are the worst I think. ;)
Do you have anyone in your life who gives you unsolcited perpetually bad advice?
My eldest brother who is about 11 1/2 years older than me, when I was 10 told me if I can't beat them join them. So I ';joined'; them and made a mess of myself for a while. Now that I've turned 29 he tells me in dealing with the opposite sex to fuc them, feed them, and forget them. Somehow I feel this is probably pretty bad advice also and I didn't ask for it. Have you anyone who gives you bad advice that you didn't ask for?Do you have anyone in your life who gives you unsolcited perpetually bad advice?
My old college room-mate is a yes woman. Anything you bring up, she's like ';go for it!'; When you tell her that its prob a bad idea, she's like ';what do u have to lose';. Honestly, you would think its reverse psychology, but she lives by those rules herself. And her life is perpetually a mess. With a friend like her, I'm glad that I have a strong background, and a sound mind.Do you have anyone in your life who gives you unsolcited perpetually bad advice?
All the time.
My old college room-mate is a yes woman. Anything you bring up, she's like ';go for it!'; When you tell her that its prob a bad idea, she's like ';what do u have to lose';. Honestly, you would think its reverse psychology, but she lives by those rules herself. And her life is perpetually a mess. With a friend like her, I'm glad that I have a strong background, and a sound mind.Do you have anyone in your life who gives you unsolcited perpetually bad advice?
All the time.
I really like our pediatrician, but it seems he gave bad advice to me about my son. What should I do?
My 14 month old son is not circumsized and our pediatrician gave us some bad advice about retracting his foreskin... how do I tell him that he was wrong?I really like our pediatrician, but it seems he gave bad advice to me about my son. What should I do?
Remeber dr. Are always not right. My dr. Tells me things that I don't think is best for my baby I just remeber im the mom and I do what I think is best for my son. If you like him keep him just always ask. And do reserch.I really like our pediatrician, but it seems he gave bad advice to me about my son. What should I do?
Tell him he is wrong, and have the research to back it up! Also, if your pediatrician is giving bad advice, no matter how much you like him, get one that is educated about the choices you are making for your son.
How do you know that he was wrong? Talk to him. I have seen numerous pediatricians with my baby and he now has a regular and awesome doctor. He is awesome about switching medicine or upping doses if needed (son has reflux) and he backs his advice up with fact and it really helps. Here is an exmaple: A lot of people will put cereal in their babies bottles to help sleep at night. Is this wrong? You will get very different degrees of answers on this. Fact is, it shouldn't be done, babies should take all solids from a spoon. That has been proven. People are still going to do it no matter what. Maybe he is telling you from experience to do this. My mother told me to warm regular milk on a stove and let it cool to room temperature and then dab some on a cotton ball and swipe my baby's eyes to get rid of blocked ducts. I thought she was crazy and ignored it for weeks. Finally, I tried it and it worked. Instantly! Maybe your doctor told you to do this and it's an old thing that the new doctors and web sites aren't up on. Talk to him, and think about getting your son circumsized. I have three and they are all done. Harder when you are an adult and it hurts pretty bad and I know a guy who tore his during sex and had to have it surgically taken care of.
Just question him. Told him you heard, read, etc. such %26amp; such on the issue. Can he confirm or explain to you his reasonings behind the advice he gave you. He won't be offended..he will be happy to communicate.
Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has different ways of doing things. Sometimes my doctor tells me things that I know from reading or just experience aren't right. When it comes to trivial things I would just do it the right way if you know he's wrong. However, if it's a big deal then I would challenge him and perhaps find a different pediatrician. Even if you like him, being likeable isn't the most important quality. You need to be confident that your son's doctor knows what he's talking about. It is, after all, your precious son you're dealing with!
I would just bring in some proof that he was wrong and ask if he was sure. He could have just been mistaken and not realized it. Every one makes mistakes, so don't be too hard on him.
Remeber dr. Are always not right. My dr. Tells me things that I don't think is best for my baby I just remeber im the mom and I do what I think is best for my son. If you like him keep him just always ask. And do reserch.I really like our pediatrician, but it seems he gave bad advice to me about my son. What should I do?
Tell him he is wrong, and have the research to back it up! Also, if your pediatrician is giving bad advice, no matter how much you like him, get one that is educated about the choices you are making for your son.
How do you know that he was wrong? Talk to him. I have seen numerous pediatricians with my baby and he now has a regular and awesome doctor. He is awesome about switching medicine or upping doses if needed (son has reflux) and he backs his advice up with fact and it really helps. Here is an exmaple: A lot of people will put cereal in their babies bottles to help sleep at night. Is this wrong? You will get very different degrees of answers on this. Fact is, it shouldn't be done, babies should take all solids from a spoon. That has been proven. People are still going to do it no matter what. Maybe he is telling you from experience to do this. My mother told me to warm regular milk on a stove and let it cool to room temperature and then dab some on a cotton ball and swipe my baby's eyes to get rid of blocked ducts. I thought she was crazy and ignored it for weeks. Finally, I tried it and it worked. Instantly! Maybe your doctor told you to do this and it's an old thing that the new doctors and web sites aren't up on. Talk to him, and think about getting your son circumsized. I have three and they are all done. Harder when you are an adult and it hurts pretty bad and I know a guy who tore his during sex and had to have it surgically taken care of.
Just question him. Told him you heard, read, etc. such %26amp; such on the issue. Can he confirm or explain to you his reasonings behind the advice he gave you. He won't be offended..he will be happy to communicate.
Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has different ways of doing things. Sometimes my doctor tells me things that I know from reading or just experience aren't right. When it comes to trivial things I would just do it the right way if you know he's wrong. However, if it's a big deal then I would challenge him and perhaps find a different pediatrician. Even if you like him, being likeable isn't the most important quality. You need to be confident that your son's doctor knows what he's talking about. It is, after all, your precious son you're dealing with!
I would just bring in some proof that he was wrong and ask if he was sure. He could have just been mistaken and not realized it. Every one makes mistakes, so don't be too hard on him.
Monday, December 28, 2009
Can you sue a realtor for bad advice and withholding information?
After months of not selling our property, we decided to rent it. As soon as we did, we told our realtor that we would no longer need his services. Mysteriously, an offer for full asking popped up that day, but the buyer wanted to do it 100% financing. We were repeatedly assured by the realtor that the buyer's loan was approved and was good.
The problem was, we had signed a lease to rent the place out. Our renters demanded $4K for us to break it, which is the norm in California. So we paid them.
As it now turns out, our buyer's loan is not good. He has bad credit and has outstanding child support that is preventing him from closing a loan and closing the place. We feel our realtor withheld this information from us - and that because of this we are $22K out of pocket - $4K for cancellation and $18K in lost income from the one year lease.
I know it was our decision to accept the offer, but do we have any legal recourse against our realtor?Can you sue a realtor for bad advice and withholding information?
I have to say, I have had more than one occasion when a listing agreement expired or was canceled and I got an offer that day or the next. I know it is hard to believe, but it does happen.
That being said, regardless of what anyone tells you (including the mortgage broker/lender) the loan is not approved until it is out of underwriting with a ';Clear to Close';. Pre-approval and approval letters are generally not worth the paper they are written on. For any agent to make a definite statement that the loan will go through is appalling. They just don't know.
The circumstances of your buyer and how you found out about the problems are not surprising. This happens all of the time.
All of that being said, if you think you can prove that the agent did not represent you adequately you can call your local real estate board and see what your options are.
You might also talk to an attorney, but you are going to need some good documentation/evidence to get anywhere (based on what you have presented here.
I know it is a bad situation for you, but unless you have things in writing or a lawyer advises you differently, I would move on and get a new agent from a different office.
Good Luck!Can you sue a realtor for bad advice and withholding information?
it is realtors like that, that gives realtors a bad name.
Here's the bottom line. If the loan was truly ready to fund, you shouldn't had let the offer include a financing contingency!
I'm sure that's the buyer's exit clause. If anybody ever encounters this scenerio, you should ask for a (letter of commitment to lend) from the lender.
It all depends on the laws in California. You should look up the Real Estate Settlement and Procedures Act (RESPA) laws for California. Below is a link to a website that I found that provides a lot of good info as well. I work for a title company in FL. (obviously... with a name like ';title girl';, are you surprised?)
I'm curious... Had a purchase contract been executed? Or any disclosure forms? Although I don't know if the contract in California specifies anything about lender financing for the buyer, they, in addition to a copy of the lease you had with the renters will provide a timeline and support the truth of your claim, should you need to take this further.
Here is the link to California's Department of Real Estate. I hope its helpful. Good Luck!
http://www.dre.ca.gov/default.htm
i went through the same thing years ago. i didn't sue, but i'm sure i could have. i just took the hit. i would rather lose the money than give it to a lawyer.
if you have proof of your accusations, i'm sure you could find a lawyer to take the case, and you would probably win.
You will have to ask a (gag) lawyer for the answer to this one. The ONLY thing in this world I hate more than lawyers are realtors. I would laugh my @ss off if you actually sued one, problem is the damn lawyer would get half of the money.
no. any loan could fall out of escrow. you should have waited til the lease was up and then re-listed. the agent was protecting her commission. you should have demanded her to pay the $4000 out of her commission. i don;t think she was holding back the mysterious buyer. why would she hold back a commission? you should have consulted a real estate attorney not the agent. anyone can take a few classes and become an agent.
check with your local consumer organisation and real estate registry body. id say you have a case.
oh yes..most deff
Basically, you can sue anyone for anything if you have the money. Check with the Real Estate Commission in the State
of California, if you can prove you were lied to or misled,
you may have a case. All you can do is check the laws and
check the deal out, find out how long the mortgage company
new it was a bad loan. And find another Realtor, it sounds
pretty fishy to me, too.
It depends on the law of your state, but if you can prove it, you might have a case. The key here is being able to prove it: you'll need to show that he was holding onto the offer and not presenting it to you, than he knew the buyer wasn't qualified, etc. You'll need good evidence. Good luck!
Was your Realtor representing the buyer also? Did you see a letter with approved financing from the buyers loan officer? These are a few question you should of asked. All else fails contact the real estate broad.
The ';Big Red Flag'; part of your question -- ';We were repeatedly assured by the realtor that the buyer's loan was approved and was good.';
Rule #1 in real estate transactions -- NEVER accept any verbal agreements. If the buyer did not supply a letter of pre-approval from his lender, then you should not assume that he has been approved regardless of any verbal assurances.
If you have some form of record -- emails, faxes, letters, etc. -- from the realtor claiming that the buyer's financing was approved, then you might have a case. If, however, everything was just verbal assurances... sorry bud, I think you just learned a very expensive lesson.
Unless it's in writing that the realtor knew, you can't prove it and there is always a clause there protecting them. So sorry. Makes you sick huh? I just helped my sister sell a house, what a nightmare. Go forward and donn't waste any more time. Get a realtor and sell, don't rent and try to recoup som of the money. If they knew and you can prove it, see a lawyer. Good luck.
You can sue anyone for anything. But I think your case would hinge on whether you have any hard evidence that the realtor claimed the loan was approved. I find that highly unlikely. Realtors always are making all kinds of ';Fluff'; claims that they can never be held to.
You can definitely sue a Realtor for withholding information, but not for bad advise. You would have to provide solid evidence that the Realtor knowingly withheld information. Based on my own experience I can tell you that child support issues sometimes will not show up until the title company completes their title search. This happens during escrow and not prior to procuring a pre-approved loan. Also, there are lots of lender who can do 100% loans for folks with credit problems. It doesn't sound on the surface like the Realtor could have known about the problems with the loan. If your Realtor was also representing the buyer I would advise that you arrange to meet with the agent's broker and express your concerns. If that was the case it could be that the Realtor had his or her own interests at heart instead of yours. Remember though that the agent doesn't earn their commission until the deal closes, so there would be no motivation for the agent to bring you an unqualified buyer.
In my experience, no financial institution would loan 100% for a mortgage and any credible agent/broker should know that as well. I would check with the realty Licensing board in CA to see what your options are as far as the agent is concerned, as most states now have a full disclosure law for both the seller and the agent.
You can only take action if you have like 75% or more of this in writing.remedies blackheads
The problem was, we had signed a lease to rent the place out. Our renters demanded $4K for us to break it, which is the norm in California. So we paid them.
As it now turns out, our buyer's loan is not good. He has bad credit and has outstanding child support that is preventing him from closing a loan and closing the place. We feel our realtor withheld this information from us - and that because of this we are $22K out of pocket - $4K for cancellation and $18K in lost income from the one year lease.
I know it was our decision to accept the offer, but do we have any legal recourse against our realtor?Can you sue a realtor for bad advice and withholding information?
I have to say, I have had more than one occasion when a listing agreement expired or was canceled and I got an offer that day or the next. I know it is hard to believe, but it does happen.
That being said, regardless of what anyone tells you (including the mortgage broker/lender) the loan is not approved until it is out of underwriting with a ';Clear to Close';. Pre-approval and approval letters are generally not worth the paper they are written on. For any agent to make a definite statement that the loan will go through is appalling. They just don't know.
The circumstances of your buyer and how you found out about the problems are not surprising. This happens all of the time.
All of that being said, if you think you can prove that the agent did not represent you adequately you can call your local real estate board and see what your options are.
You might also talk to an attorney, but you are going to need some good documentation/evidence to get anywhere (based on what you have presented here.
I know it is a bad situation for you, but unless you have things in writing or a lawyer advises you differently, I would move on and get a new agent from a different office.
Good Luck!Can you sue a realtor for bad advice and withholding information?
it is realtors like that, that gives realtors a bad name.
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Here's the bottom line. If the loan was truly ready to fund, you shouldn't had let the offer include a financing contingency!
I'm sure that's the buyer's exit clause. If anybody ever encounters this scenerio, you should ask for a (letter of commitment to lend) from the lender.
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It all depends on the laws in California. You should look up the Real Estate Settlement and Procedures Act (RESPA) laws for California. Below is a link to a website that I found that provides a lot of good info as well. I work for a title company in FL. (obviously... with a name like ';title girl';, are you surprised?)
I'm curious... Had a purchase contract been executed? Or any disclosure forms? Although I don't know if the contract in California specifies anything about lender financing for the buyer, they, in addition to a copy of the lease you had with the renters will provide a timeline and support the truth of your claim, should you need to take this further.
Here is the link to California's Department of Real Estate. I hope its helpful. Good Luck!
http://www.dre.ca.gov/default.htm
i went through the same thing years ago. i didn't sue, but i'm sure i could have. i just took the hit. i would rather lose the money than give it to a lawyer.
if you have proof of your accusations, i'm sure you could find a lawyer to take the case, and you would probably win.
You will have to ask a (gag) lawyer for the answer to this one. The ONLY thing in this world I hate more than lawyers are realtors. I would laugh my @ss off if you actually sued one, problem is the damn lawyer would get half of the money.
no. any loan could fall out of escrow. you should have waited til the lease was up and then re-listed. the agent was protecting her commission. you should have demanded her to pay the $4000 out of her commission. i don;t think she was holding back the mysterious buyer. why would she hold back a commission? you should have consulted a real estate attorney not the agent. anyone can take a few classes and become an agent.
check with your local consumer organisation and real estate registry body. id say you have a case.
oh yes..most deff
Basically, you can sue anyone for anything if you have the money. Check with the Real Estate Commission in the State
of California, if you can prove you were lied to or misled,
you may have a case. All you can do is check the laws and
check the deal out, find out how long the mortgage company
new it was a bad loan. And find another Realtor, it sounds
pretty fishy to me, too.
It depends on the law of your state, but if you can prove it, you might have a case. The key here is being able to prove it: you'll need to show that he was holding onto the offer and not presenting it to you, than he knew the buyer wasn't qualified, etc. You'll need good evidence. Good luck!
Was your Realtor representing the buyer also? Did you see a letter with approved financing from the buyers loan officer? These are a few question you should of asked. All else fails contact the real estate broad.
The ';Big Red Flag'; part of your question -- ';We were repeatedly assured by the realtor that the buyer's loan was approved and was good.';
Rule #1 in real estate transactions -- NEVER accept any verbal agreements. If the buyer did not supply a letter of pre-approval from his lender, then you should not assume that he has been approved regardless of any verbal assurances.
If you have some form of record -- emails, faxes, letters, etc. -- from the realtor claiming that the buyer's financing was approved, then you might have a case. If, however, everything was just verbal assurances... sorry bud, I think you just learned a very expensive lesson.
Unless it's in writing that the realtor knew, you can't prove it and there is always a clause there protecting them. So sorry. Makes you sick huh? I just helped my sister sell a house, what a nightmare. Go forward and donn't waste any more time. Get a realtor and sell, don't rent and try to recoup som of the money. If they knew and you can prove it, see a lawyer. Good luck.
You can sue anyone for anything. But I think your case would hinge on whether you have any hard evidence that the realtor claimed the loan was approved. I find that highly unlikely. Realtors always are making all kinds of ';Fluff'; claims that they can never be held to.
You can definitely sue a Realtor for withholding information, but not for bad advise. You would have to provide solid evidence that the Realtor knowingly withheld information. Based on my own experience I can tell you that child support issues sometimes will not show up until the title company completes their title search. This happens during escrow and not prior to procuring a pre-approved loan. Also, there are lots of lender who can do 100% loans for folks with credit problems. It doesn't sound on the surface like the Realtor could have known about the problems with the loan. If your Realtor was also representing the buyer I would advise that you arrange to meet with the agent's broker and express your concerns. If that was the case it could be that the Realtor had his or her own interests at heart instead of yours. Remember though that the agent doesn't earn their commission until the deal closes, so there would be no motivation for the agent to bring you an unqualified buyer.
In my experience, no financial institution would loan 100% for a mortgage and any credible agent/broker should know that as well. I would check with the realty Licensing board in CA to see what your options are as far as the agent is concerned, as most states now have a full disclosure law for both the seller and the agent.
You can only take action if you have like 75% or more of this in writing.
Do you think anyone has ever died because of bad advice on Yahoo Answers?
OK, I am always seeing uneducated people give crappy advice that they're not qualified to give. But in some certain sections, like Health or Electronics, I see people give advice that is downright dangerous!
Like telling someone that their cancer can be cured with fruit juice fasts, or that it's okay to pour water on an electrical fire....
Things like that.
I'm willing to bet yes, what do you think?Do you think anyone has ever died because of bad advice on Yahoo Answers?
Gawd! I hope people have more smarts and know to go to the doctor!
That's a scary question. If you hover your cursor over my avatar, you'll see that I do spend most of my time in the Health categories. But I ALWAYS tell people to see their doctor! But some of the other answers........well, it's scary.
Great question deserves a star. BE CAREFUL PEOPLE!
:)Do you think anyone has ever died because of bad advice on Yahoo Answers?
Yahoo answers take no responsibility for anyone using the information given on this website. Yes, I have seen the answers you have seen also. This is supposed to be a friendly, fun, family website. Until Yahoo gets really serious and make their guidelines stronger and enforce them, you will just have to put up with the stupidity of the people using the website. If you see something really wrong, report it under the abuse button and MAYBE yahoo will delete it.
I answer a lot of questions in mental health regarding suicide and mental health questions. If they say they are suicidal I say call 911 NOW. As for the questions about '; do you think I'm depressed'; I get so mad at the IDK's or no man just talk a walk. I always tell them to go to their DR and have him/her refer them to a properly trained professional that will diagnose them , not to rely on medical advice from people on YA. Even a DR on Ya can't diagnose over the Internet.There was one person that said they felt like killing themselves and one of the answers was'; Go ahead. the world is too over populated anyway '; ! Why do people even ask health or mental health questions on here? They should call their Dr. !
i bet so! I wouldn't want to be traced to a bad answer that i gave that somebody followed and got killed somhow by it (bcuz they could sue, and that could get ugly) but i've never given any bad advise like that. the closest to doing that that i've come is giving sombody bad hair advice (like telling them to curl it when it probly would look better straight sense i dont have any training like that) so ya....
No but many have been driven insane
I doubt it. Some people lack common sense.
Like telling someone that their cancer can be cured with fruit juice fasts, or that it's okay to pour water on an electrical fire....
Things like that.
I'm willing to bet yes, what do you think?Do you think anyone has ever died because of bad advice on Yahoo Answers?
Gawd! I hope people have more smarts and know to go to the doctor!
That's a scary question. If you hover your cursor over my avatar, you'll see that I do spend most of my time in the Health categories. But I ALWAYS tell people to see their doctor! But some of the other answers........well, it's scary.
Great question deserves a star. BE CAREFUL PEOPLE!
:)Do you think anyone has ever died because of bad advice on Yahoo Answers?
Yahoo answers take no responsibility for anyone using the information given on this website. Yes, I have seen the answers you have seen also. This is supposed to be a friendly, fun, family website. Until Yahoo gets really serious and make their guidelines stronger and enforce them, you will just have to put up with the stupidity of the people using the website. If you see something really wrong, report it under the abuse button and MAYBE yahoo will delete it.
I answer a lot of questions in mental health regarding suicide and mental health questions. If they say they are suicidal I say call 911 NOW. As for the questions about '; do you think I'm depressed'; I get so mad at the IDK's or no man just talk a walk. I always tell them to go to their DR and have him/her refer them to a properly trained professional that will diagnose them , not to rely on medical advice from people on YA. Even a DR on Ya can't diagnose over the Internet.There was one person that said they felt like killing themselves and one of the answers was'; Go ahead. the world is too over populated anyway '; ! Why do people even ask health or mental health questions on here? They should call their Dr. !
i bet so! I wouldn't want to be traced to a bad answer that i gave that somebody followed and got killed somhow by it (bcuz they could sue, and that could get ugly) but i've never given any bad advise like that. the closest to doing that that i've come is giving sombody bad hair advice (like telling them to curl it when it probly would look better straight sense i dont have any training like that) so ya....
No but many have been driven insane
I doubt it. Some people lack common sense.
Which is better? Bad advice from positive person or good advice from a negative person?
bad advice i don't hang around negative personWhich is better? Bad advice from positive person or good advice from a negative person?
Better advice is always better, as long as you can accept that it's better.
To put it as simply as possible in a metaphor,
if Hitler tells me that 2+2=4 and Mother Theresa tells me 2+2=5, I have to accept Hitler's ';advice'; over Mother Theresa's or my perception of mathematics and reality will be forever skewed.Which is better? Bad advice from positive person or good advice from a negative person?
Of course its always the good advice regardless of who gave them. But of course, you have to think if this advise actually worked on them based on their experience or not. Ultimately, its you who decides which one to follow.
Of course, the good advice. Maybe it's not the path you want to take, but if you take the bad advice (I'm assuming) you'll end up in a bad situation anyway.
good advice from a negative person, of course. because usually the good advice comes from making bad decisions and learning from them
good advice! from whoever it came from is immaterial, because what will count here is that whether or not you would believe the negative person?
Hmm....I would say it depends on the advice.....hehe. If the advise doens't have a negitive effect from the negitive person, then I'd go with that... I guess..................... =/
of course good advice is always the best no matter who it's from: an ex- an enemy or anyone else good advice is always the best
I would say good advice from a negative person...good advice is good advice...right?
Neither is better.
Best to wait and get good advice from a positive person.
good advise from a negative person bc thats the kinda advise i give
Good advice sounds like the best advice.
good advice would always be better
it depends on if u like the person or not..... doesn't it?
I'll take one from a bipolar guy
Better advice is always better, as long as you can accept that it's better.
To put it as simply as possible in a metaphor,
if Hitler tells me that 2+2=4 and Mother Theresa tells me 2+2=5, I have to accept Hitler's ';advice'; over Mother Theresa's or my perception of mathematics and reality will be forever skewed.Which is better? Bad advice from positive person or good advice from a negative person?
Of course its always the good advice regardless of who gave them. But of course, you have to think if this advise actually worked on them based on their experience or not. Ultimately, its you who decides which one to follow.
Of course, the good advice. Maybe it's not the path you want to take, but if you take the bad advice (I'm assuming) you'll end up in a bad situation anyway.
good advice from a negative person, of course. because usually the good advice comes from making bad decisions and learning from them
good advice! from whoever it came from is immaterial, because what will count here is that whether or not you would believe the negative person?
Hmm....I would say it depends on the advice.....hehe. If the advise doens't have a negitive effect from the negitive person, then I'd go with that... I guess..................... =/
of course good advice is always the best no matter who it's from: an ex- an enemy or anyone else good advice is always the best
I would say good advice from a negative person...good advice is good advice...right?
Neither is better.
Best to wait and get good advice from a positive person.
good advise from a negative person bc thats the kinda advise i give
Good advice sounds like the best advice.
good advice would always be better
it depends on if u like the person or not..... doesn't it?
I'll take one from a bipolar guy
Who is responsible if I accept your bad advice?
Almost every answer I have received here has directed me to do something dangerous, illegal or immoral. Great, so now I'm in prison. Yes, your taxes are paying for my internet access.Who is responsible if I accept your bad advice?
But the important thing was that you had a real good time, am I right? It doesn't really matter how many people you slaughter, just so long as it was good, clean fun.Who is responsible if I accept your bad advice?
You are responsible. On here, if you ask a stupid question, you are going to get a stupid answer. You are ultimately responsible for your own actions, just as I am, just as everyone on here is. You know the difference between right and wrong. So, if you choose to follow bad advise, you choose to pay any consequences that may follow. Remember, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. So my advise to you know would be...don't drop the soap!
Remember when I gave you two aspirin? You put them in your pocket and forgot to take them, but your headache still went away. Would someone like me give you bad advice? Probably....but ';polite fiction'; dictates that you pretend everything is just fine!
not anymore cubbie..they hand out those little 2 inch toothbrushes, not good for shyt...oops..said too much..
you are, once the advice is passed it's on whoever picked it up...';nice assss, that's what they'll say..in the mens club...san quentin country club...'; haha
Who is responsible? Well, either the Arabs or the Jews or the Communists or the Iraqis or the USA or the British...
Talk to your lawyer. I'm sure he'll give you great advice -- at about $100 an hour.
Oh, and here's some really good advice since you're in prison: If you drop the soap in the shower, don't pick it up.
Oh, you can get out of there. You just gotta slip the warden a little somethin' somethin', wink, wink, nod, nudge, yeah, you know what I'm talking about.
i always stress that i strongly suggest and not advise..
this way any legal action or responsibility is not in my hands or on my conscionable morals..
can i strongly suggest you seek therapy?
Do't follow advice you get on here!:P
Have fun in jail!
Blame those albino midgets. They cause me to do bad stuff all the time.
A toothbrush can be used to make a lovely shank.
Your parole officer should take some of the heat dude !!
The person who listened. There are a lot of story tellers out there.
You get care from
taxes so you win
Jack
Enjoy the Meals %26amp; The Cable TV too....!!
enjoy yourself there
Sweet. Having fun there?
You are i didn't force you to take my advice
Do as I say, Not as I do, Kev.
Good Advice: Don't let the jailhouse tattooer tattoo nipples on your azzcheeks.
But the important thing was that you had a real good time, am I right? It doesn't really matter how many people you slaughter, just so long as it was good, clean fun.Who is responsible if I accept your bad advice?
You are responsible. On here, if you ask a stupid question, you are going to get a stupid answer. You are ultimately responsible for your own actions, just as I am, just as everyone on here is. You know the difference between right and wrong. So, if you choose to follow bad advise, you choose to pay any consequences that may follow. Remember, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. So my advise to you know would be...don't drop the soap!
Remember when I gave you two aspirin? You put them in your pocket and forgot to take them, but your headache still went away. Would someone like me give you bad advice? Probably....but ';polite fiction'; dictates that you pretend everything is just fine!
not anymore cubbie..they hand out those little 2 inch toothbrushes, not good for shyt...oops..said too much..
you are, once the advice is passed it's on whoever picked it up...';nice assss, that's what they'll say..in the mens club...san quentin country club...'; haha
Who is responsible? Well, either the Arabs or the Jews or the Communists or the Iraqis or the USA or the British...
Talk to your lawyer. I'm sure he'll give you great advice -- at about $100 an hour.
Oh, and here's some really good advice since you're in prison: If you drop the soap in the shower, don't pick it up.
Oh, you can get out of there. You just gotta slip the warden a little somethin' somethin', wink, wink, nod, nudge, yeah, you know what I'm talking about.
i always stress that i strongly suggest and not advise..
this way any legal action or responsibility is not in my hands or on my conscionable morals..
can i strongly suggest you seek therapy?
Do't follow advice you get on here!:P
Have fun in jail!
Blame those albino midgets. They cause me to do bad stuff all the time.
A toothbrush can be used to make a lovely shank.
Your parole officer should take some of the heat dude !!
The person who listened. There are a lot of story tellers out there.
You get care from
taxes so you win
Jack
Enjoy the Meals %26amp; The Cable TV too....!!
enjoy yourself there
Sweet. Having fun there?
You are i didn't force you to take my advice
Do as I say, Not as I do, Kev.
Good Advice: Don't let the jailhouse tattooer tattoo nipples on your azzcheeks.
Does it seem that your mother is wishing you the worst by giving you bad advice?
Whenever I am aiming for something for the better, my mother tells me to give up trying or can always think of some ways to put me off.
Does this happen to you?Does it seem that your mother is wishing you the worst by giving you bad advice?
I don't know if i would consider it advice but I can relate to what you mean. it seems to me that whenever I'm happy about something that my mom seems to have a way of putting it down and making me feel like a complete idiot and that I made a mistake or something. I have am finally learing that sometimes it is better not to say anything at all.Does it seem that your mother is wishing you the worst by giving you bad advice?
She probably does not realize she is doing this. Perhaps you should sit down and talk with her.
hope you're teenager. sometimes teenagers do something they seem right. this proverb, what an olman sitting down sees, a young man standing cannotsee. Maybe your mum is trying to stop you from doing something that might hurt you. Ask her why she asks you to stopbla bla........She might not be wishing bad for you. be wise
Does this happen to you?Does it seem that your mother is wishing you the worst by giving you bad advice?
I don't know if i would consider it advice but I can relate to what you mean. it seems to me that whenever I'm happy about something that my mom seems to have a way of putting it down and making me feel like a complete idiot and that I made a mistake or something. I have am finally learing that sometimes it is better not to say anything at all.Does it seem that your mother is wishing you the worst by giving you bad advice?
She probably does not realize she is doing this. Perhaps you should sit down and talk with her.
hope you're teenager. sometimes teenagers do something they seem right. this proverb, what an olman sitting down sees, a young man standing cannotsee. Maybe your mum is trying to stop you from doing something that might hurt you. Ask her why she asks you to stopbla bla........She might not be wishing bad for you. be wise
How do you know when you're getting Bad advice?
What are some things that tip you off and tell you that you're getting crappy advice from someone?How do you know when you're getting Bad advice?
ditto to the first post. go with your gut feeling.How do you know when you're getting Bad advice?
Try getting several opinions before making a decision. You'll have to use your own judgement to some extent; but you'll increase the chances of getting it right.
It's hard to tell. Just go with your gut.
When its from the koran????
When something just doesn't sound right, or sounds too good or too easy to be true. You can also always get a ';second opinion';.
You really should take personal advice from other people with a grain of salt, at least until you've further investigated it. Don't be rushed into following it. Even well-meaning people can give bad advice.
ditto to the first post. go with your gut feeling.How do you know when you're getting Bad advice?
Try getting several opinions before making a decision. You'll have to use your own judgement to some extent; but you'll increase the chances of getting it right.
It's hard to tell. Just go with your gut.
When its from the koran????
When something just doesn't sound right, or sounds too good or too easy to be true. You can also always get a ';second opinion';.
You really should take personal advice from other people with a grain of salt, at least until you've further investigated it. Don't be rushed into following it. Even well-meaning people can give bad advice.
Friday, December 25, 2009
How can you tell good advice from bad advice?
I wanted to put this question up to help others realise that not all advice they obtain is good advice. I myself think that if the person seems to know what he or she is talking about, and posts it in a intulectual manner, with proper sources, Not just: I know relationships, Or I know I know.How can you tell good advice from bad advice?
There's a old saying:
';Listen to too much advice and you end up making other people's mistakes.';
Take advice under consideration, but let the final call be yours.remedies blackheads
There's a old saying:
';Listen to too much advice and you end up making other people's mistakes.';
Take advice under consideration, but let the final call be yours.
Why do some people on Yahoo give really bad advice?
Some people think that they know it all and unless you have experienced something or are an expert in that field I think that you should shut it. I think that some people have to much time on their hands and they think that everyone could benefit from what they have to say.
So my point being, unless you know what what your talking about keep your mouth closed and stop being judgemental. Maybe get a job ?Why do some people on Yahoo give really bad advice?
they do it because sometimes if they dont know how to give a certain answer, no matter what they put down they will still get the two points.Why do some people on Yahoo give really bad advice?
You obviously are against free speech - unless it's your own. Until you can accept a person's right to free speech and can graciously agree to disagree with people, then maybe you should shut-up and make yourself busy doing something other than criticising the people at Yahoo and other sites.
You don't go to Y/A for professional advice... for that go to professionals. You come here to get advice from REAL people. That includes jerks and losers. I think perhaps you should not be posting questions on Y/A since you don't seem to understand the concept behind it.
I agree that lots of people have too much time on their hands and write ignorant comments. All questions are open for answers, so people are entitled to express how they feel about a situation.
because their like 8 years old.....
i agree with number two!
So my point being, unless you know what what your talking about keep your mouth closed and stop being judgemental. Maybe get a job ?Why do some people on Yahoo give really bad advice?
they do it because sometimes if they dont know how to give a certain answer, no matter what they put down they will still get the two points.Why do some people on Yahoo give really bad advice?
You obviously are against free speech - unless it's your own. Until you can accept a person's right to free speech and can graciously agree to disagree with people, then maybe you should shut-up and make yourself busy doing something other than criticising the people at Yahoo and other sites.
You don't go to Y/A for professional advice... for that go to professionals. You come here to get advice from REAL people. That includes jerks and losers. I think perhaps you should not be posting questions on Y/A since you don't seem to understand the concept behind it.
I agree that lots of people have too much time on their hands and write ignorant comments. All questions are open for answers, so people are entitled to express how they feel about a situation.
because their like 8 years old.....
i agree with number two!
How can I tell someone higher in the Navy chain of command about the bad advice my recruiter gave me ?
My recruiter told me not to disclose my juve record %26amp; and he worked really hard to get me in. I don't want to get him in trouble, but I don't want to get into trouble either. I'll about to ship to basic in a couple of weeks. Should I wait until I get to basic to say something?How can I tell someone higher in the Navy chain of command about the bad advice my recruiter gave me ?
Do NOT wait until basic. They have the RQAT teams there that'll run you through the ';moment of truth'; and they usually find that 90% of the recruits have *something* they want to confess about their enlistment, though most of those confessions are in fact nothing at all. Still, if anything *does* come up, it's a major hit on the recruiter, and it doesn't look good on you, either.
Go to your recruiter, and insist that you make a statement detailing your juvvie record. Tell him you'll be doing it anyway, so he may as well help you get it done correctly. So long as he and you work together, starting RIGHT NOW, there'll be no major come-back on anyone. Yeah, he'll probably get chewed by his RinC and ZoneSup, but that's no big deal. If an RQAT report comes back, that IS a big deal.
Go to your recuruiter, and insist that he do it right. It's the best, and honorable, course forward.
*Edit*
Juvvie record ';expungement'; DOES NOT erase the record! It's still in the system, and the National Agencies Check finds those with great regularity.
Do it right!How can I tell someone higher in the Navy chain of command about the bad advice my recruiter gave me ?
Depending how far back your record is I'd keep my mouth shut. A lot service have juve records. Unless you killed some one don't tell!
If you already lied, why would you want to change your mind now... to get out?
Have you already gone through the induction process,, If
so there isn't much you can do at this point,, Not knowing
extent of the record,, If you have not gone through induction
you can close that door right now,,, and petition to have
your intent to join resended. This really has a dark resonance
to it,, your juvinile record had to have some very harsh
connotations to be this apprehensive,, Contact NCIS at the
nearest Naval Facility and discuss this with the AIC of that
unit,
you`ll be kicking in your own a** if you report some-thing AND don`t forget that your Recruiter ';worked really hard'; to get you there..!
obviously HE can see some-thing Positive in you , don`t mess His life up as well as your own......think out-side the Box and get ready to prove your-self to you and the rest of the World.
and never forget.....';if it`s not written down , it NEVER happened';.
if you do a report/complaint/Query/letter (it`s obviously GOT to be on paper) , some-one will investigate the Claim.....do you want that???????
as i said before , get off your a** , and learn Life.
what can it do ,,,, kill you?
Advice is don't ask, don't tell. The navy did a background check prior and they were still able to get you in, I would not sweat it.
dont say anything
sounds like you don't want to go... if that is the case disclose it asap.
Don't bother, they don't give a damn. What are they meant to do with the information - rush off and fill in a form. Yikes! let's go for the quiet life and say nothing.
Of course, if you want to get out that's different.
well, if I would be you I would be quiet and when asked about something specific give them true answers. If asked why you did not disclose said info, tell them the truth. Sorry dude but military is nothing you want to be dishonest about. Most likely you are going to get in trouble the same either way, or if you are honest if asked not at all, but I would be quiet until someone asks. It also depends on what you have in your juvenile record. If it is something really bad then you might just want to tell them now, but be prepared to be dropped from the military and you most likely will never go to basic training. You also might want to accept the fat that you wont get very far in your future in the military with such record....
Juvenile records usually don't matter, they are expunged at age 18. If you want to go ahead, it is probably a non-issue. But then again, you might not be in the Navy very long.
Do NOT wait until basic. They have the RQAT teams there that'll run you through the ';moment of truth'; and they usually find that 90% of the recruits have *something* they want to confess about their enlistment, though most of those confessions are in fact nothing at all. Still, if anything *does* come up, it's a major hit on the recruiter, and it doesn't look good on you, either.
Go to your recruiter, and insist that you make a statement detailing your juvvie record. Tell him you'll be doing it anyway, so he may as well help you get it done correctly. So long as he and you work together, starting RIGHT NOW, there'll be no major come-back on anyone. Yeah, he'll probably get chewed by his RinC and ZoneSup, but that's no big deal. If an RQAT report comes back, that IS a big deal.
Go to your recuruiter, and insist that he do it right. It's the best, and honorable, course forward.
*Edit*
Juvvie record ';expungement'; DOES NOT erase the record! It's still in the system, and the National Agencies Check finds those with great regularity.
Do it right!How can I tell someone higher in the Navy chain of command about the bad advice my recruiter gave me ?
Depending how far back your record is I'd keep my mouth shut. A lot service have juve records. Unless you killed some one don't tell!
If you already lied, why would you want to change your mind now... to get out?
Have you already gone through the induction process,, If
so there isn't much you can do at this point,, Not knowing
extent of the record,, If you have not gone through induction
you can close that door right now,,, and petition to have
your intent to join resended. This really has a dark resonance
to it,, your juvinile record had to have some very harsh
connotations to be this apprehensive,, Contact NCIS at the
nearest Naval Facility and discuss this with the AIC of that
unit,
you`ll be kicking in your own a** if you report some-thing AND don`t forget that your Recruiter ';worked really hard'; to get you there..!
obviously HE can see some-thing Positive in you , don`t mess His life up as well as your own......think out-side the Box and get ready to prove your-self to you and the rest of the World.
and never forget.....';if it`s not written down , it NEVER happened';.
if you do a report/complaint/Query/letter (it`s obviously GOT to be on paper) , some-one will investigate the Claim.....do you want that???????
as i said before , get off your a** , and learn Life.
what can it do ,,,, kill you?
Advice is don't ask, don't tell. The navy did a background check prior and they were still able to get you in, I would not sweat it.
dont say anything
sounds like you don't want to go... if that is the case disclose it asap.
Don't bother, they don't give a damn. What are they meant to do with the information - rush off and fill in a form. Yikes! let's go for the quiet life and say nothing.
Of course, if you want to get out that's different.
well, if I would be you I would be quiet and when asked about something specific give them true answers. If asked why you did not disclose said info, tell them the truth. Sorry dude but military is nothing you want to be dishonest about. Most likely you are going to get in trouble the same either way, or if you are honest if asked not at all, but I would be quiet until someone asks. It also depends on what you have in your juvenile record. If it is something really bad then you might just want to tell them now, but be prepared to be dropped from the military and you most likely will never go to basic training. You also might want to accept the fat that you wont get very far in your future in the military with such record....
Juvenile records usually don't matter, they are expunged at age 18. If you want to go ahead, it is probably a non-issue. But then again, you might not be in the Navy very long.
Does the bad advice about drinking that gets chosen as best answer amaze you also?
I'm amazed and disgusted almost daily around here. The stupid or downright wrong answers being chosen over the helpful, accurate and correct ones for best answer, the ';How do I get a fake ID?'; or ';How can I buy booze?'; questions that don't get deleted, the drug questions, the ';I'm drunk, hehehe...'; questions, etc.
If it weren't for the few people that are actually looking for help, and the few of us that actually put some effort into our answers, I probably wouldn't be here anymore. I don't even bother opening up probably 80% of the questions in this category anymore, there's no point in even wasting my time with them.Does the bad advice about drinking that gets chosen as best answer amaze you also?
Scan this section, you see bad/wrong ';advice'; all the time. Vodka is still made from potatoes. Tequila has a worm in it. A ten year old bottle of Jack will be stronger then one new from a store. Etc.
In some ways, I am amazed that people can really be that dumb. On the other hand, at least there is a place now where we can ';enlighten'; those that need it. Perhaps if the truth is told often enough the false beliefs will pass away.Does the bad advice about drinking that gets chosen as best answer amaze you also?
People amaze me everyday all day lol
Yeah. There's a lot of bad information about drinking.
Many people just learn things from movies or mainstream media, which is sometimes total BS.
Some just ask questions to reinforce their (often false) beliefs and not really to learn the correct answer, so don't take it personally.
Cheers.
I'm partly amazed and partly reinforced in my cynicism. I guess part of what keeps me answering is to give myself an excuse to find new answers to questions I don't already know the answer to, and to try to help out those who appear to have a genuine interest.
I, too, tune out the crap like ';how much of ... does it take to make me drunk'; or ';how long before I can pass a drug test'; ...and the list goes on.
...not to mention all the questions about alchol, alcohal, alcahole, etc.
OY!
Yes, lets all become alcohols and die of alcohol poisoning. You really need to lighten up. Nobody loves to drink me than myself. Learn how to understand sarcasm.
maybe the moron can't do the math ....24 ounces of alcohol in a six pack, what difference does it make how much water.
It's subjective. You think the answer is poor, but the asker liked it.
Go figure.
people on high horses tend to put others down so people have to stick up for themselves besides in voting on here it is all rigged
i agree with brandi
If it weren't for the few people that are actually looking for help, and the few of us that actually put some effort into our answers, I probably wouldn't be here anymore. I don't even bother opening up probably 80% of the questions in this category anymore, there's no point in even wasting my time with them.Does the bad advice about drinking that gets chosen as best answer amaze you also?
Scan this section, you see bad/wrong ';advice'; all the time. Vodka is still made from potatoes. Tequila has a worm in it. A ten year old bottle of Jack will be stronger then one new from a store. Etc.
In some ways, I am amazed that people can really be that dumb. On the other hand, at least there is a place now where we can ';enlighten'; those that need it. Perhaps if the truth is told often enough the false beliefs will pass away.Does the bad advice about drinking that gets chosen as best answer amaze you also?
People amaze me everyday all day lol
Yeah. There's a lot of bad information about drinking.
Many people just learn things from movies or mainstream media, which is sometimes total BS.
Some just ask questions to reinforce their (often false) beliefs and not really to learn the correct answer, so don't take it personally.
Cheers.
I'm partly amazed and partly reinforced in my cynicism. I guess part of what keeps me answering is to give myself an excuse to find new answers to questions I don't already know the answer to, and to try to help out those who appear to have a genuine interest.
I, too, tune out the crap like ';how much of ... does it take to make me drunk'; or ';how long before I can pass a drug test'; ...and the list goes on.
...not to mention all the questions about alchol, alcohal, alcahole, etc.
OY!
Yes, lets all become alcohols and die of alcohol poisoning. You really need to lighten up. Nobody loves to drink me than myself. Learn how to understand sarcasm.
maybe the moron can't do the math ....24 ounces of alcohol in a six pack, what difference does it make how much water.
It's subjective. You think the answer is poor, but the asker liked it.
Go figure.
people on high horses tend to put others down so people have to stick up for themselves besides in voting on here it is all rigged
i agree with brandi
Is it illegal to start a list of doctors who give bad advice?
I'm mainly thinking doctors who give bad advice on breastfeeding and infant nutrition? From my own experience, and talking with other moms, alot of doctors are using really outdated information.
Is there any other way to hold them accountable for the bad advice that they give?Is it illegal to start a list of doctors who give bad advice?
How do you determine it's ';bad'; advice?
There are some mothers that think childhood vaccinations are bad while others think they are good.
How are the mom's held accountable for believing junk science?
In other words, the list sounds like a bad idea.Is it illegal to start a list of doctors who give bad advice?
I guess a doctor is qualify to recommend,,, but lets face it if he or she has not breastfeed a baby,, they don't have a real idea of what is like,, I would not start a list saying the are giving bad advise cause that can give you a real legal problem, if you are asking a foot doctor to give you advise on breastfeeding, of course you are not going to get the best answers,, my ogyn send me to a class with midwifes and they were great, there were different methods of holding the baby, different masages for the breast to clear the milk ducts,, is better to research with midwifes that are certified that with other moms who might not had to breastfeed their kids or they have grown kids and have forgot how to do that,,, I have 2 toddlers and breastfeed them each 6 months,, hope this helps you and gives you some peace of mind.
A so if some of that stuff they recommend did not work for you, it does not mean they are wrong,, it maybe better to let go of the grudge i suspect you are having with this issue specially if you are breastfeeding right now,, if you get really really upset your milk will not be good for your child,, hope you can get the peace you need, bye
doc are not perfect
Yes, it is defamation!!! And you can be sued. Report them to the proper authorities, and let them deal with it.
I wouldn't do that if I were you. You can, but you may be liable for Libel and/or Slander in Civil Court. I suggest you just tell others of your own experiences. Leave other doctors out of it if you haven't had direct personal experience with them.
Those authorities have their own political agenda and are not considered ';Authorities'; by every member of the medical community.
I would be VERY cautious in starting a grip site like this since you will be liable for suits of libel.
ADDED:
Again, those are your or the organization's standards. Unless the AMA has cited the physician for negligence or failure to provide sufficient care, it's a matter of personal opinion and you are treading on very dangerous ground.
These organizations have nothing whatsoever to do with licensing and continuing education of a physician or in granting the physician priviledges.
Okay, you've gotten some crummy answers here, haven't you?? Yes, a list like that, however appreciated it would be by some moms/dads/anyone, would probably get you into legal trouble. But I completely agree with you that a lot of doctors are using outdated info, and something should be done. But as to what, I'm not sure. Even a list, if that were okay, would not help us all. I live in such a small area, that we really don't have a lot of choices about who to go to, so it's really up to people to either do the proper research themselves, or blindly trust their doctors as ';professionals';. The recommendation that you just find a doctor who's 'been through it' is ridiculous. How many family practice doctors (which is pretty much all we have in our area) have diabetes, arthritis, breast cancer, yeast infections, have breastfed, are depressed, have given birth, are circumcised or not, have asthma, etc.? Jeeesh.
freedom of speech baby!!
start a website, and have other moms contribute.
Is there any other way to hold them accountable for the bad advice that they give?Is it illegal to start a list of doctors who give bad advice?
How do you determine it's ';bad'; advice?
There are some mothers that think childhood vaccinations are bad while others think they are good.
How are the mom's held accountable for believing junk science?
In other words, the list sounds like a bad idea.Is it illegal to start a list of doctors who give bad advice?
I guess a doctor is qualify to recommend,,, but lets face it if he or she has not breastfeed a baby,, they don't have a real idea of what is like,, I would not start a list saying the are giving bad advise cause that can give you a real legal problem, if you are asking a foot doctor to give you advise on breastfeeding, of course you are not going to get the best answers,, my ogyn send me to a class with midwifes and they were great, there were different methods of holding the baby, different masages for the breast to clear the milk ducts,, is better to research with midwifes that are certified that with other moms who might not had to breastfeed their kids or they have grown kids and have forgot how to do that,,, I have 2 toddlers and breastfeed them each 6 months,, hope this helps you and gives you some peace of mind.
A so if some of that stuff they recommend did not work for you, it does not mean they are wrong,, it maybe better to let go of the grudge i suspect you are having with this issue specially if you are breastfeeding right now,, if you get really really upset your milk will not be good for your child,, hope you can get the peace you need, bye
doc are not perfect
Yes, it is defamation!!! And you can be sued. Report them to the proper authorities, and let them deal with it.
I wouldn't do that if I were you. You can, but you may be liable for Libel and/or Slander in Civil Court. I suggest you just tell others of your own experiences. Leave other doctors out of it if you haven't had direct personal experience with them.
Those authorities have their own political agenda and are not considered ';Authorities'; by every member of the medical community.
I would be VERY cautious in starting a grip site like this since you will be liable for suits of libel.
ADDED:
Again, those are your or the organization's standards. Unless the AMA has cited the physician for negligence or failure to provide sufficient care, it's a matter of personal opinion and you are treading on very dangerous ground.
These organizations have nothing whatsoever to do with licensing and continuing education of a physician or in granting the physician priviledges.
Okay, you've gotten some crummy answers here, haven't you?? Yes, a list like that, however appreciated it would be by some moms/dads/anyone, would probably get you into legal trouble. But I completely agree with you that a lot of doctors are using outdated info, and something should be done. But as to what, I'm not sure. Even a list, if that were okay, would not help us all. I live in such a small area, that we really don't have a lot of choices about who to go to, so it's really up to people to either do the proper research themselves, or blindly trust their doctors as ';professionals';. The recommendation that you just find a doctor who's 'been through it' is ridiculous. How many family practice doctors (which is pretty much all we have in our area) have diabetes, arthritis, breast cancer, yeast infections, have breastfed, are depressed, have given birth, are circumcised or not, have asthma, etc.? Jeeesh.
freedom of speech baby!!
start a website, and have other moms contribute.
Bad advice?
It always is shocking to me when someone posts a question about thier marriage and several people answer with get a divorce, but they dont advise the person try counseling or some other form or working the problem out. Does this bug anyone else?Bad advice?
Yes!!!
It's amazing to me how many people, based on a single-paragraph question, blurt out advice like ';dump him'; or ';throw him to the curb';.
What ever happened to ';for better or for worse';?
Even cheating is not grounds, it's just an excuse. Not that cheating is acceptable in any form, but it does NOT justify divorce.Bad advice?
yes, this is why the divorce rate is so high.couples are to unwilling to work out their problems, or to compromise. it is so much easier to throw in the towel. what happened to the wedding vows you take when you get married? dont they mean anything!
No why you have to be suffering if you have the divorce option????/I recommended like a last option ......but dont be miserable if you have a solution.
So why doesn't it bother you that some people arbitrarily think counseling is the issue?
Not really... I don't expect *every* answer be sensible or well-thought-out - this would be an unrealistic expectation.
And sometimes from reading the question it does seem that divorce would be the best option.
no
I have to agree with an above answer, when in the case of abuse or cheating counselling isn't really an option. Cheating is grounds for divorce, remember the day and age we are living in. Cheating not only is cheating but could also be putting a partners life at risk with the chance of disease being passed. If you choose to be married then it's simple don't cheat and if you love someone you don't abuse them plain and simple.
Savvy that is so untrue, I'm married (happily) and if someone told me that their husband either cheated or abused them the first words out of my mouth would be divorce him. It has nothing to do whether you've been married or not I think it's just common sense.
Not everyone answers questions based on regilous beliefs. The only reason most people cite to stay married is commitment before God. However, keep in mind that not all people feel that way. If they really felt that way they would never had married in the first place. Somethings are just not meant to be, and life is too short to suffer for religious reasons.
Yes it does bother me that people are so ready to take the easiest way out, ';quit'; - in other words divorce. Marriage is very difficult and love in marriage is unconditional. So, a marriage takes alot of W O R K. Counceling may not always be the answer (well, joint counceling anyways - men shy away from that). Anyways, just saying everyone has a right to an opinion. My opinion is to never ever divorce (Q U I T), with the exeption of physical abuse or harm. Thanks for putting this out there! Hope everyone can respect an opinion.
Not me, I wouldn't want anyone just because they have a degree to getting into my business. If I was married and the only way to save it was to go to some stranger and show my dirty laundry then I guess that marriage would be over
I completely agree! The ones who say ';get a divorse'; are kids who have never been married.
not if the question involves abuse or cheating...counseling doesnt fix everything
yes, I think it takes too much thought to form an answer for them. Everyone has different issues and need to be addressed differently. Sometime, we write things when were angry or hurt and then we don't get the proper response. Like talk it out or counseling.
I'm thinking that a lot of those people are just talking, some are even speaking from personal experiences. I would love to elaborate on the issue but I do not air my dirty on here so enough said. Good luck.
it really bugs me
You get what you pay for.
HELLO THIS IS FREE!!!
OMG, if someone followed any of this advise without thinking it out I believe they deserve what ever happens.
the people giving the advice don't really give a crap or pehaps haven't been through alot. I have 2 children and am getting a devorce and trust me I wish I had listened to those who did advice me to try and work it out. to late now. yes I agree with you 100%
Yes!!!
It's amazing to me how many people, based on a single-paragraph question, blurt out advice like ';dump him'; or ';throw him to the curb';.
What ever happened to ';for better or for worse';?
Even cheating is not grounds, it's just an excuse. Not that cheating is acceptable in any form, but it does NOT justify divorce.Bad advice?
yes, this is why the divorce rate is so high.couples are to unwilling to work out their problems, or to compromise. it is so much easier to throw in the towel. what happened to the wedding vows you take when you get married? dont they mean anything!
No why you have to be suffering if you have the divorce option????/I recommended like a last option ......but dont be miserable if you have a solution.
So why doesn't it bother you that some people arbitrarily think counseling is the issue?
Not really... I don't expect *every* answer be sensible or well-thought-out - this would be an unrealistic expectation.
And sometimes from reading the question it does seem that divorce would be the best option.
no
I have to agree with an above answer, when in the case of abuse or cheating counselling isn't really an option. Cheating is grounds for divorce, remember the day and age we are living in. Cheating not only is cheating but could also be putting a partners life at risk with the chance of disease being passed. If you choose to be married then it's simple don't cheat and if you love someone you don't abuse them plain and simple.
Savvy that is so untrue, I'm married (happily) and if someone told me that their husband either cheated or abused them the first words out of my mouth would be divorce him. It has nothing to do whether you've been married or not I think it's just common sense.
Not everyone answers questions based on regilous beliefs. The only reason most people cite to stay married is commitment before God. However, keep in mind that not all people feel that way. If they really felt that way they would never had married in the first place. Somethings are just not meant to be, and life is too short to suffer for religious reasons.
Yes it does bother me that people are so ready to take the easiest way out, ';quit'; - in other words divorce. Marriage is very difficult and love in marriage is unconditional. So, a marriage takes alot of W O R K. Counceling may not always be the answer (well, joint counceling anyways - men shy away from that). Anyways, just saying everyone has a right to an opinion. My opinion is to never ever divorce (Q U I T), with the exeption of physical abuse or harm. Thanks for putting this out there! Hope everyone can respect an opinion.
Not me, I wouldn't want anyone just because they have a degree to getting into my business. If I was married and the only way to save it was to go to some stranger and show my dirty laundry then I guess that marriage would be over
I completely agree! The ones who say ';get a divorse'; are kids who have never been married.
not if the question involves abuse or cheating...counseling doesnt fix everything
yes, I think it takes too much thought to form an answer for them. Everyone has different issues and need to be addressed differently. Sometime, we write things when were angry or hurt and then we don't get the proper response. Like talk it out or counseling.
I'm thinking that a lot of those people are just talking, some are even speaking from personal experiences. I would love to elaborate on the issue but I do not air my dirty on here so enough said. Good luck.
it really bugs me
You get what you pay for.
HELLO THIS IS FREE!!!
OMG, if someone followed any of this advise without thinking it out I believe they deserve what ever happens.
the people giving the advice don't really give a crap or pehaps haven't been through alot. I have 2 children and am getting a devorce and trust me I wish I had listened to those who did advice me to try and work it out. to late now. yes I agree with you 100%
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