So because she is still taking care of her grown children and grandchildren that bothers you? Maybe she's trying to make up for something that's missing in there relationship. Me and my brother and sister are grown and my mom still helps us out whenever she can. I will do the same for my kids when they need help no matter how old they are. Sounds like you are a little jealous, you really should mind your own business.Have friend 50's can't stop helping grown children, and when can't feel really bad, advice for her?
It sounds like they are not taking advantage of her because in your post you mentioned that they don't usually ask. Everyone runs into hard times, esp in this economy. It pains us as parents when we can't help our children that our in trouble, not matter what their age is. I feel for her wanting to help but not being able too. Unfortunately, all you can do is listen to her and try not to judge her or her children.
My advise for you is to tell her how you feel... then BUTT OUT!
I am assuming she has no husband to tell the kids to let go of her. Tell her she can be in charge of her life or not. She needs to learn to say no, which she obviously cannot do.
She needs some counseling and some time for herself, maybe help her find a volunteer job she can go to once a week so she can have some fun in her life.
You can't stay an extension of your children forever. Hopefully the one grown child is helping support the household.. the other child needs to find an alternative babysitter and the third will just have to get a loan from a established bank.
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