Bad advice?

It always is shocking to me when someone posts a question about thier marriage and several people answer with get a divorce, but they dont advise the person try counseling or some other form or working the problem out. Does this bug anyone else?Bad advice?
Yes!!!





It's amazing to me how many people, based on a single-paragraph question, blurt out advice like ';dump him'; or ';throw him to the curb';.





What ever happened to ';for better or for worse';?





Even cheating is not grounds, it's just an excuse. Not that cheating is acceptable in any form, but it does NOT justify divorce.Bad advice?
yes, this is why the divorce rate is so high.couples are to unwilling to work out their problems, or to compromise. it is so much easier to throw in the towel. what happened to the wedding vows you take when you get married? dont they mean anything!
No why you have to be suffering if you have the divorce option????/I recommended like a last option ......but dont be miserable if you have a solution.
So why doesn't it bother you that some people arbitrarily think counseling is the issue?
Not really... I don't expect *every* answer be sensible or well-thought-out - this would be an unrealistic expectation.





And sometimes from reading the question it does seem that divorce would be the best option.
no
I have to agree with an above answer, when in the case of abuse or cheating counselling isn't really an option. Cheating is grounds for divorce, remember the day and age we are living in. Cheating not only is cheating but could also be putting a partners life at risk with the chance of disease being passed. If you choose to be married then it's simple don't cheat and if you love someone you don't abuse them plain and simple.





Savvy that is so untrue, I'm married (happily) and if someone told me that their husband either cheated or abused them the first words out of my mouth would be divorce him. It has nothing to do whether you've been married or not I think it's just common sense.
Not everyone answers questions based on regilous beliefs. The only reason most people cite to stay married is commitment before God. However, keep in mind that not all people feel that way. If they really felt that way they would never had married in the first place. Somethings are just not meant to be, and life is too short to suffer for religious reasons.
Yes it does bother me that people are so ready to take the easiest way out, ';quit'; - in other words divorce. Marriage is very difficult and love in marriage is unconditional. So, a marriage takes alot of W O R K. Counceling may not always be the answer (well, joint counceling anyways - men shy away from that). Anyways, just saying everyone has a right to an opinion. My opinion is to never ever divorce (Q U I T), with the exeption of physical abuse or harm. Thanks for putting this out there! Hope everyone can respect an opinion.
Not me, I wouldn't want anyone just because they have a degree to getting into my business. If I was married and the only way to save it was to go to some stranger and show my dirty laundry then I guess that marriage would be over
I completely agree! The ones who say ';get a divorse'; are kids who have never been married.
not if the question involves abuse or cheating...counseling doesnt fix everything
yes, I think it takes too much thought to form an answer for them. Everyone has different issues and need to be addressed differently. Sometime, we write things when were angry or hurt and then we don't get the proper response. Like talk it out or counseling.
I'm thinking that a lot of those people are just talking, some are even speaking from personal experiences. I would love to elaborate on the issue but I do not air my dirty on here so enough said. Good luck.
it really bugs me
You get what you pay for.


HELLO THIS IS FREE!!!





OMG, if someone followed any of this advise without thinking it out I believe they deserve what ever happens.
the people giving the advice don't really give a crap or pehaps haven't been through alot. I have 2 children and am getting a devorce and trust me I wish I had listened to those who did advice me to try and work it out. to late now. yes I agree with you 100%