My gf is afraid that having sex for the 1st time will huert really bad. what advice can you give her?

she's also afraid of getting pregnant. what is the best contrecptive to use minus the side effects?My gf is afraid that having sex for the 1st time will huert really bad. what advice can you give her?
The best contraceptive WHILE making love is using a CONDOM..It is the best way to avoid unwanted pregnancy.After all prevention is better than cure! Use a fruit flavoured eatable condom. U may opt for the one with ribs or with raised dots for that xtraa pleasure..!! But make sure you are using a 100% secure condom from a known company. If an accident occurs, you can also get your gf take some contraceptive pills within 24 hours( there are many side-effect contraceptives in the market).


As for your gf having fear for first time sex, I would say her its like jumping from the top of the mountain with a parachute..Initially you r fearful but when you take the leap then you discover the joys of flying..Same here in sex. Nothing to be afraid of. It wont pain much and once when ur bf is inside you, you will discover the ULTIMATE FANTASY..sheer pleasure. Ask ur bf to use a petroleum jelly(vaseline) for a smooth and painless entry!!


Enjoy!!My gf is afraid that having sex for the 1st time will huert really bad. what advice can you give her?
dnt do it!no gain..no pain ;)
Trojan makes a condom with spermacides, they're nearly fool proof. Obviously you can't get to the sex that doesn't hurt if you don't have the sex that does.





That being said she should never be forced into doing something she's not 100% comfortable with.
it will hurt chances are she may bled a little bit,cuz after all she is a virgin.But not as bad a giving birth,hurts a whole hell of alot and bled,there is quite abit of blood.Best form of Birth Control. Don't do it.But if you can't resist,then both of you need to use ';protection';I believe there is a ';shot'; that they give women that stops her period and causes her to be sterile for about 3 months,so she has to go to the doctor every 3 months.But for you you shouldn't just rely on her you should protect yourself.just to be on the safe side.If not are you and her ready to be parents?
Firstly, she should be comfortable as possible with it. Second, she should trust that you're going to be gentle. Thirdly, she should be as aroused as possible (preferably having already had an orgasm from your giving her attentive and loving head) so her vagina is as lubricated as possible (or buy some KY lube from the drug store, but natural lubrication is always better). Then go in really, really slow.
all she has to do is make sure you have a condom on,and make sure she is really relaxed and wants to do it.


dont force her.if she is relaxed and wants to do it it should hurt at all,she only might just feel pressure.
get her horny and she'll be begging you to do it!!!
Always use a condom with spermicide and wear two if you still have any worries about the condom tearing. (It does happen.)


Always make sure the vagina is well-lubricated.


Use extra lubrication such as KY warming liquid.


Take your time. Go slow and if it hurts, back off and go slower.


Tell your girlfriend she should also go on the pill. Condoms can and do tear, and she will be better off with at least the two kinds of birth control.
hold on tight baby, here it comes.
You might not want this answer: my advice would be for her to save herself for the one who loves her enough to want to marry her and stay with her. I know, I know....


Love, Buttercup
My best advice for her is, find a boyfriend who will stop pressuring you to do something you are obviously not ready for.