Can anyone give advice on how to change my bad attitude?

Recently I've been so irritable. People in school think I'm the sweetest thing ever, but they don't know my other side. Sometimes I'm ready to explode. I have so much emotion that I just want to rip someone apart. I don't want to do anything that's irrational so can someone give me advice. Don't tell me anything about medication because that's not the answer. i will be seeing my school counselor pretty soon. I could be a complete ***** sometimes and I hate that about myself. My own actions which seem uncontrollable sometimes make me cry. I just want to explode. Maybe i have to much time on my hands. I'm not so thrilled about my environment. I don't have the good friends that I want and guys always send me mixed signals. People see me as a very sweet and understanding person, yet they don't know me at all. I don't want to take crap from anyone. So much anger.Can anyone give advice on how to change my bad attitude?
Behavior is learned and it can be unlearned. I'm not a fan of medication and think it should be the very last resort. Nothing you have said makes me think you need medication. Seeing a counselor is a very good first step. Your feelings are not unique to you alone. Many of us feel that if the world knew who we really were, we would be rejected. Do you feel like you're fooling the world with your attitude of ';sweetest thing';? That's a common feeling. I think you are unwilling to accept yourself as a good person. Society does not allow us to express our true feelings at all times, so we stuff them deep inside. Practical advice-seek out the people you would like to emulate and make them your friends. Your time is school is short and school pressure is high. When you leave school, many of your friends will be out of your life. Take a broader prospective on life. If you can remember this simple prayer, it may help. ';God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.'; You do not have to pray or believe in God, but study the wisdom in that prayer. Accept yourself and accept the things that anger you and you cannot fix. Do not seek perfection. Live in the ';now';; the moment you are in. You need to really be honest with your counselor and talk out your feelings. You are burying too much. Finally, buy and read a simple book on meditation. It has nothing to do with religion. Use the techniques in the book. You are not feeling anything that the rest of us have not also felt. You only need a coping mechanism. You know your friends aren't good for you, so change them. Sorry to be so long-winded. Good luck.Can anyone give advice on how to change my bad attitude?
Always remember honey is sweeter than lemons when u smile a t someone they are bound to smile back.If u frown at someone they will frown back.I learnt this myself i was bitter and also angry sometimes wondering why I was.There must be something bothering u for u 2 feel this way and u should try to find out what the real problem is.Is yr self esteem high enough?You gotta do something to make yrself feel good aobut yrself.And guys...Try not to worry aobut them i think u r young so there is and will be plenty of fish in the sea for u in yr lifetime.And u shouldnt have to take any crap from anyone either u can still be sweet and strong minded never let anyone walk all over u so stay that way.good luck I hope u find some happiness go for a walk when u feel down it helps me .
take deep breaths %26amp; exhale, do several times. try going for power walks in your free time. try yoga





try doing good deeds or when you feel angry write a poem or song expressing your feelings





get an ipod %26amp; listen to music
if you know you r this way let some one else treat you like garbage it will change you





ps i may be bias because my father sounds just like that when he walks in a room everyone runs he needs attention 25-8 and hes an evil bastared when he smiles he has to use ever muscle in his body dont be like him I REPEAT DONT BE LIKE HIM GET SOME HELP
xanax or valium.
smoke a little weed once in a while...


it will definately calm you down, and it cheers most people up.
I'm a war veteran. I used to have so much anger that once I put my fist thru a door actually my whole arm, I could look around the door and wave at myself. Others didn't know the real me but God did. When I found out that I needed help I turned to HIM, gave HIM my problems. Can't remember what some of my problems were. Now there are times when I notice the beauty and fragrance of the trees and flowers and hear the birds in the morning. Usually when I have a lady friend to walk on the beach with. O HEY! have you noticed lately how quickly the sun sets once it meets the ocean? Now when I'm angry, sad, depressed,you name it ,I spend time with the LORD, HIS WORD.. the Bible brings me peace usually in less than a minute.It's fantastic. The only thing it doesn't affect is loneliness. I have to go directly to HIM for that.
Sounds like a mixture of PMS, and stress, and loneliness,





Need to take you birthcontrol pills and if you aren't taking any then start.





next find a way to get to the salon , to get a manicure and pedicaure once a week, i always feel prettier and happier and less stressed out after a good visit to the salon.








finally and most importantly,


you need to '; RELEASE'; the sexual tension.





Vibrators and masterbation are the best way to go, if you don't have a fellow yet.





Once you've done this for about amonth you'll be relaxed and feeling back to normal, and then your Signals won't be confusing either.





I mean its kinda like shaking a soda bottle, of course your gonna explode, at some point you have to unscrew the cap.





and just let it out.





Good luck





Meg
well when im angry...i write in my journal...it helps a LOT....u get all that bad stuff out and then u feel much better...i suggest that u start writing
Being Calm is a state of mind not action


Being Angry is a state of emotion.





If you can get your mind and emotion controlled by your will.





You will be the most perfect person who ever lived





Good luck
I know from my own experience and that of my daughter, hormones are to blame. At your age they are raging. Expecially around that time of month. Something that helped my daughter was birth control pills. I also take a small dose of antidepressant. It is a miracle drug for that type of symptoms. It is not that you are depressed but it has some effect on your nervous system. I wish I had taken it when I was younger. My life would have been so much easier. I know you mentioned that you did not want to take drugs, but sometimes that is the only answer. Talk with your gynecologist. Since I have been taking a small dose of Celexa, I stopped screaming at the microwave and crying over roadkill. A natural aide is St John's Wart. You can get this in the health food section of your local stores. I wish you well in your search for some relief.
find a cold lake and jump into it
Find someone that you can vent to, a friend, coworker, family member, someone. Then when you are done venting, just smile, it will make your day go a whole lot better. When something goes wrong, just take a deep breathe and count to 10 to calm yourself.








:) :) :) :)





I like the kickboxing idea above.....
When you start to get tight, my best advise for you is to think about God. Whatever concept you have of God is OK. Just sit down, close your eyes and breathe deep slow and steady. As you do that just think about God.





I guarantee you that you may notice an immediate calm come to you and if not right away do not give up the practice, because it will work.





You will find an overwhelming sense of peace and wholeness and tranquility.
I commend you for realizing your attitude and wanting to change it, you have made your first step into conquering ';the Beast';. You sound like it's a mix of hormones and something that happened to you that is really bad and you can't come to terms with. Something so buried inside that you are afraid to let it out but it's so strong that it's overflowing, coming through your pores if you will.





There is nothing wrong with being angry as long as you deal with it wisely. Counseling is good but you really have to feel safe and secure, trust your counselor. If you aren't happy with that one find one that you trust. You need to bleed your soul of whatever it is, it may be concious or not, it could be something you aren't even aware of. It could be your parents, your friends, your siblings. Maybe people think your sweet and take advantage of you and you kind of let them. We do that sometimes to be accepted and that is only human so don't feel bad. There might have been an incident when you were small or several things.





I am glad that you are getting help, you are a good person inside and you deserve to be happy in life and this can't be a happy time for you. Try to find your smile again, life sucks and what little happiness you can squeeze out of it is worth it. Find the people who will stand with you when you fall and stand for you when you can't. Good luck and I hope you feel better.
hey sister...i have the same problem..i am 18 years of age..ppl think i am really sweet n bubbly..but my truth is i smoke 10 ciggs per day n cut myself every other day...i dont know what to do...i am helpless..but one advice i can give u..time will heal..also try making some friends who can understand u..maybe people on the net..because ..online u can give ur emotions in a better way...actually my answer makes no sense..bt i'l pray things get fine for me n u.,.


take care
anti-depressants....but you can't learn to be patient. you have to teach yourself
Accept and embrace ALL that you are... stop trying to the one others ';expect'; you to be. So you are human...great! Human beings are light and dark, angry and peaceful, sweet and sour. Integrate all aspects of yourself lovingly.
Medication would not be a good idea, to start off with. Sometimes when people look inside themselves, they can find where the problem lies. If you step back and assess the situation at hand, you'll figure out what the solution is. If that doesn't work, find somewhere private, take a deep breathe, and just let all the tension go. If this helps count to ten, backwards. Sometimes people over-exaggerate the problem at hand. It might even be something as small as somebody making an ff-hand remark about something they think that you did wrong. But, in reality they screwed something up trying to blame you for something that they did wrong. All the ';crap'; that people are giving out, you shouldn't let it have any affect on you. As long as you're comfortable with who you are. Because regardless of what anybody else has to say about you, all you have to remember is this: You Are Beautiful
communication is the key to relationships....never keep things bottled up inside....ever.....also it is not the circumstances that affect you...it is your attitude towards those circumstances and environments......if you have anger.....tell some one you are angry at them in a calm, sensitive manner.
well you cant really change it i am the same way a lot of the time but what i do to get away from my anger is go to the gym and run as fast as i can
It sounds like you're being a typical teenager. Chill a bit, play some videogames, read a book, go for a run, talk to your mum.. heck anything just to get it off your mind.
I can get like you sometimes, it's normal and it's okay.


I don't mean to sound rude, but how your sex life?


When I start to feel that way I just call up my boyfriend, ilpinman and he bends me over and sets me straight!!! ;)
Sounds like your describing me, find something to occupy your mind so you want think about it so much.





Reading, sports or maybe even a boyfriend.
Join the club honey...the thing is i feel bad for you cause you need what they call an ';outlet'; a way for you to get your anger and frustration across in a healthy way. You need some type of hobby or something you can do when you feel this way..this will calm you down and teach you patience. Counselors are good however maybe if you ran everyday or went to the gym...took up some craft or something...beading is very calming you might feel better!!!
Stop taking life and yourself so seriously.





Take up a hobby like kickboxing.
There is a video out about the rules of attraction, and it simplifies it better than i can. I saw it at college, freshman year. Don't remeber the name of it, but it actually works. What you are doing when you are getting so irratable and ready to explode is attractring a negative force. I know it sounds korny as hell, but try to believe it. When you start your day off bad you start the cycle of attracting negative things, this just starts a cycle of frustration, and irratability. You can actually bring positive and good things to you.. Some people pray for them and some just ask. What ever works for you, you must think of positive good things to attract them. There are so many ways to do this. Hang up somethying you want that makes you feel good, or somethings you really want, whether it be a good mood , happiness, or even material items. This is called the rule of attraction. You have to attract positive stuff that you want, that means thinking about it, hangin a picture up, setting goals, talking about them, praying about them, what ever it takes to attract those things. Right now with all this anger built up you are attracting negative and it is pulling you into a downward spiral, that is only getting worse. So to get out of it, this might sound silly but, you need to attract positive and things that make you tick. So my suggestion, make a list at least 10 things that you are happy for, and 10 things you want out of your life. Keep goals, vizualize and try to attract the stuff you want out of life, and try not to attract the anger and negative stuff you dont want. Positive begets positive, and negative begets negative. I know its easier said then done. Wish you well..