IS THIS BAD ADVICE FOR A PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR TO GIVE?

Two of my friends are having some relationship problems, so they decided to see a relationship counselor. the counselor told them that it was okay to go through each other's things if they don't trust one another. That doesn't sound right to me. Should they find another counselor or is that actually an ok thing for them to do?IS THIS BAD ADVICE FOR A PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR TO GIVE?
If my significant other went through my stuff...I'd have one foot out the door. Alot of folks are damaged bay prior experiences, and have difficulties trusting the person they are with in the present...but to possess a severe lack of distrust for someone who has given you no reason to would be wrong. The therapist is a quack.IS THIS BAD ADVICE FOR A PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR TO GIVE?
';come on now who fell off the turnip truck?'; A professional counselor has a rule of ethics and this event is not registered in most sessions. (anyway, none of mine). Have you looked a bit farther, for the person in question is very much insecure and that will spell troubles down the road. Getting advice from a professional counselor is like finding gold in Illinois! They believe a person should rely on their own judgment and make efforts on their own, after-all they called the counselor he didn't call them!
I think it's bad advice. It just harbors that distrust. The only time I've ever heard a counselor say it was okay to go through your partner's things is when they've proven themselves to be untrustworthy (such as being caught cheating) and at that point they need to be transparent with the other partner... every move they make should be accounted for.


But no, I say definately find someone new, or just disregard that advice.
I wouldn't be surprised if it was incompetence or some kind of technique to challenge the couple's morality and relationship, or both. If they actually find something incriminating that would resolve the issue similarly to my initial impression that people who can't trust each other oughtn't be together or with anyone at all until they gain self-confidence.
I would never give this advice. Yes, I think they need to find a new counselor IMMEDIATELY! They should be using counseling to help build trust. I just cannot even think of what to say about this as it is such bad advice. This will cause resentment and make them not trust each other even more in the long run. Tell them to find another counselor.
Going through each other's things shows a total lack of respect and trust for the other person. It is a total violation of privacy and boundaries. It is time to fire that counselor.
That is in the grey area of life, not good or bad. You are too quick to call things good or bad. You should be supporting your friends in what they deem right for them, not coming on YA trying to find support for your opinion.
I wonder if a reputable counselor would actually say that. Perhaps they misinterpreted. I think everyone is entitled to privacy, you should respect that, and also be able to trust.
THIS IS A BAD ADVICE FOR A PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR TO GIVE