Well, if you two were ';apart'; as YOU say, then I should think that it would be COMPLETELY up to YOU!!! Because technically, YOU did NOT cheat on him, or anything, in my opinion, anyways. But if YOU feel as though YOU owed him some sort of ';loyalty'; during the break-up, and your conscience is getting to YOU, then by all means tell him.
But if YOU are OK with it, and feel that he may never find out, then YOU might wanna keep it to YOURSELF. Especially, if YOU have the desire to reunite with him, in the future. Because speaking for most men, we like to feel that the women we are with, are fulfilled TOTALLY, and have NO desire to be with ANYONE else, even if we DO ';break-up';. So, the situation YOU described, would be taken, by MOST men as some kind of a ';blow'; to their egos.(because men are typically such ';macho'; egomaniacs)
So if YOU think the truth might hinder a possible reunion between the two of YOU in the future, then you might be better served to keep this from him. Unless he knows the other one that YOU slept with, if it's that small of a town, or if YOU happen to know, that they know each other.
But NO ONE knows the situation better than YOU. So YOU know what would serve the situation, BETTER than ANY of us !!!
And, I would advise, to go with what YOU are feeling in your ';gut';, because usually, that's the best answer, to these sorts of dilemmas.
Hope that helped YOU!!! And GOOD LUCK, with this !!!Ok i did something really bad and want advice?
You already lied? That's kind of a bad start. :/ But don't worry! We can try to fix this! The next time you see him, try to talk to him about it. If he brings it up before you get to talk, don't mention it. He'll probably take it the wrong way and get mad. So just randomly text him when you're not together and ask if you can hang out because you want to talk to him. Then just calmly tell him what happened and that you feel so dumb about it because you really care about him. By then he should believe you. Just make sure you apologize for lying first. But the fact that you lied about something that big could make it difficult to trust you, so be careful! This kind of thing is hard to get yourself out of, unfortunately. :/
Yes, I think you should call him asap or go over and talk to him.
Look, I know for a fact that men hate lies then they do cheating.
Sure cheating is a big thing but it is something that in time anyone can get over.
Lying on the other hand makes them loose all trust in you. So if they find out you cheated and lied about it, if ever they ask you again and you say no, they will think yes and that will make things worse.
At least by telling him if ever he asks you anything you will get the benefit of the doubt because he will have full trust in you.
Expect him to be slightly upset, but in it will be better for both of you if you tell him.
I would by all means tell him. But first tell him how sorry you are. Like this (I did this all the time with my mom when I was really bad but I was like 7 yrs old)
You: I am sooooo sorry! I shouldn't have I knoooow I shouldn't have!!!
Him: What?
You: I had sex with this guy while we were apart and didn't tell you! I AM SOOOOO SORRY!!!!!
(Then he might like get really mad show A LOT of sorrow)
Hmm. This is a difficult situation. You should tell the truth and come clean. But there is a very good chance that he will break up with you over this. How do you think he will react? Of course, if you don't tell him and he finds out he would be even more likely to break up with you.
So tell him, but carefully. Start with, ';what would you do if I did something completely terrible? could you ever forgive me?'; Hopefully if he sees how truly horrible you feel over this he will forgive you. But you'll have to earn his trust back.
Tell him!
Think about all the entirely possible what-ifs. . .
What if he finds out from someone else?
What if he did that to you? Wouldn't you want him to tell you?
And many, many more.
If you come out and tell him instead of someone/someway else it will end up a lot better than vice versa.
Wait - were you split up when it happened? If yes, you don't need to answer to your boyfriend about it.
If no - it's up to you...you think it might ease your guilt if you tell him, but it will probably just cause more problems if you do tell.
Well, he must have been suspicious or he wouldn't have asked. Now you lied, so that is very hard to get out of. If the other guy is the only other person who knows, I would let sleeping dogs lie, and learn a lesson.
Sh*t Happens. I've done to my boyfriend, and I didnt tell him either it just would cause drama and distrust. Besides YOU WERE ON A BREAK. If he didnt want you sleeping with other people then he shouldnt have agreed to break up in the first place.
I would tell him the truth if you still want to have a relationship with your boyfriend because sooner or later it will come out and you will feel alot better telling him right away than waiting believe me I know. =) Hope that helps.
... how long were you apart for?
5 minutes?
lol jk i had a bad day, had to be nasty/
Well theres the don't ask don't tell or if you don't want secrets tells him the truth
tell him. its going to be very tough he might even break up with u.. but u gotta tell him. show how sorry u are for being unfaithful. and if he does break up with u and u still love him let him come back to u on his own terms.
LMAO You're screwed man. U owe it to him to tell the truth, but u don't want him to leave you right?. . .Well ask yourself this . . .Should you decide whether or not you two stay together or him?
ya he might find out later beter to tell him
reply to mine please
my brothers girl did that, ended up prego, and now doesnt know if the babys his...
you need to tell him...
its his right to know...
If its affecting you and it meant someting to you then you should te..
But if it was just a fling, and ye were broken up anyway
forget it man move on!
I say you don't. You were apart, so you weren't cheating, and it's not really his business.
up to because you were separated its not really his business what happened during this time
however if he finds out it will cause problems
tell him now. if he finds out on his own he'll think you are trying to hide it from him. just tell him and tell him it was awful and you regret it yada yada. kk
Yes, it's okay you can do it! Best not to make the situation worse.
he probably did the same thing, u should ask him, let him fess up then admit to your own sins =)
not a nice situation to be in tho....
We were on a Break!!!!
you should tell him. a relationship's foundation is trust and if u can't trust your boyfriend enough to tell him that you had sex with someone else when he was away it will cause proablems
It's all on you. If you don't want to tell him then don't. If you do for whatever reason then go ahead.
No, if you are sure you are not pregnant or have a disease.
Yes, if you want to lose him.
tell him the best thing to do is tell the truth
which person do you like? tell the person you dont like the truth
depends on how you think your boyfriend will take it
you shouldn't lie..
you should tell em that he wasn't with you so it's okay..
yea because u guys were apart it is always best to be honest in this situation
what is his answer to the same question (%26amp; why does he ask) ?
he might already know %26amp; he's just testing you.
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